Turbulent Times

June 21, 2009 at 11:31 am (Anti-War, Waging Peace)

May our prayers and thoughts go out to the people of Iran, Afghanistan and Pakistan. 

It seems like the whole world is catching hell. 

Are You Ready for war with a Demonized Iran?  by Paul Craig Roberts. 

The U.S. media’s demonization of Ahmadinejad itself demonstrates American ignorance. The President of Iran is not the ruler.  He is not the commander-in-chief of the armed forces.  He cannot set policies outside the boundaries set by Iran’s rulers, the ayatollahs who are not willing for the Iranian Revolution to be overturned by American money in some color-coded “revolution.”

Iranians have a bitter experience with the United States government.  Their first democratic election, after emerging from occupied and colonized status in the 1950s, was overturned by the U.S. government.  The U.S. government installed in place of the elected candidate a dictator who tortured and murdered dissidents who thought Iran should be an independent country and not ruled by an American puppet.

The U.S. “superpower” has never forgiven the Iranian Islamic ayatollahs for the Iranian Revolution in the late 1970s, which overthrew the U.S. puppet government and held hostage U.S. embassy personnel, regarded as “a den of spies,” while Iranian students pieced together shredded embassy documents that proved America’s complicity in the destruction of Iranian democracy.

Robert Fisk:  Battle for the Islamic Republic

Now that Iran’s Supreme Leader, Ali Khamenei, has placed himself shoulder to shoulder with his officially elected president, Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, the very existence of the Islamic regime may now be questioned openly in a nation ever more divided between reformists and those who insist on maintaining the integrity of the 1979 revolution. Had Khamenei chosen a middle ground, some small compromises towards the countless millions – for in the election, it appears, they were indeed uncounted – who oppose Ahmadinejad, then he might have remained a neutral father-figure. Mir Hossein Mousavi and his supporters had religiously – in the most literal sense of the word – refused to criticise the Supreme Leader or the existence of the Islamic Republic during last week’s street demonstrations. 

But reacting as all revolutionaries do even decades after they have come to power – for the spectre of counter-revolution remains with them until death – Khamenei chose to paint Ahmadinejad’s political opponents as potential mercenaries, spies and agents of foreign powers. Treason in the Islamic Republic is, of course, punishable by death. But Khamenei’s political alliance with his very odd and hallucinatory president may have sprung from fear as much as anger.

Shut Up About Iran by Sheldon Richman

True, Obama has said he does not wish to interfere in the Iranian election. Others, such John “Bomb Bomb Bomb, Bomb Bomb Iran” McCain, have no such compunction. But any statement at all — even a statement about not making a statement — is a mistake. The record of the U.S. government in Iran over the last half-century is so tainted that it would be better for all officials to just keep quiet.

The results of the presidential election certainly suggest a fix. But that is for the Iranians to work out.

For the last few years, the U.S. “military option” has been prominently “on the table” when it comes to Iran. The U.S. government’s closest ally in the Middle East, Israel — especially under the new hard-line prime minister, Benjamin Netanyahu — clearly would like to see Iran attacked for having the nerve to develop nuclear technology. U.S. intelligence says Iran gave up a weapons program long ago — before Mahmoud Ahmadinejad became president — but Israel apparently won’t tolerate an Iran even with only a civilian nuclear-power industry. Apparently the thought of another country’s challenging Israel’s 40-year nuclear-weapons monopoly in the Middle East — and thus being able to deter aggressive military action — is intolerable. (Ahmadinejad, incidentally, has no military authority under Iranian law.)

The U.S. government, then, can hardly be an unbiased observer of Iran’s political process. Besides, it is well known that U.S. governments have routinely meddled in elections throughout the world, overtly and covertly. The National Endowment for Democracy, a government-funded organization, is just the most obvious way that American officials interfere. (Remember how outraged people were in the Clinton years when they thought the Chinese had funneled money into the U.S. electoral system?)

 

 

 

 

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The 10 Effective Ways for Muslims to Ruin Their Lives

June 21, 2009 at 9:26 am (Neurotica, Uncategorized)

(and the lives of those around them)  :-)  

Hee-hee, this is the beginning of another Neurotica series.  It’s a hodge-podge of various experiences that some of us have gone through.  I’m being somewhat wicked so please excuse my behavior.  :-)  

Number #1

Make everyone who enters the mosque feel like a rotten person. 

Don’t give salaams to anyone, especially if they are not of the same creed, sect, race or color.  Just sit there, scowling at whoever for whatever reason.  Keep your eye on every believer that enters, lest some brother or sister commits some “mistake” that earns your wrath.  And make sure that when you have verbally “corrected” this Muslim on his/her “mistake,” please do it as loudly as possible.  Adab should not be applied.  And if you know some Arabic, use lots of heavy Arabic terminology so as to further confuse the person who might have just converted to Islam yesterday (and who, by that point, will seriously rethink their decision).  Use the Arabic terminology even if you don’t know what you’re saying and can’t really pronounce these terms properly. 

You should alienate everyone but especially women.  Women don’t really belong there anyway, unless you are a women and you are keeping guard against other women who come in without “proper hijab” and jeans.  But shun the women–especially the non-hijabi women.   Cuz we love to rag on the sisters who don’t cover their hair.  This issue is more important that the murder of innocents throughout Muslim lands all over the world.  And we all know, that if those sisters, would just cover their hair, all the oppressors of the Muslim countries would disappear and the khilafah would come back.  Even though she may be living a life of chastity and prayer and she’s struggling to be the best person she can be, make her feel like a wanton whore.  Okay, so she might be modest and proper from the neck down but she doesn’t exactly fit your definition of how a perfect Muslima should dress.  In fact, neither does the muhajaba who had enough nerve to wear a pink and white shayla.  Hijabs are not meant to cute, fashionable or clean-looking.  Then again, that floral pattern on that navy-blue abaya-wearing sister left you a tad bit miffed.  Navy blue is not a color that’s brings one closer to Allah.  Besides, the mere presence of women causes fitna so its best to keep them at home.  Of course, you’ll be ignoring that hadith about letting the maidservants of Allah enter the house of Allah, but…well, women are a fitna and that’s that. 

Get into debates with dang near everybody and make them see that only your way, only your method is correct.  Don’t accept any opinions that deviate from your own.  Alienate converts by making them feel less than up to snuff of the job of being a Muslim.  Make “born-Muslims” feel bad by accusing them of being too dumb to differiante between what is Islam and what is culture.  If you do this you will successfully turn your mosque into something akin to the Spanish Inquisition.  As far as you are concerned, there is God, the Messenger (sallalahu alayhi wa salaam) then you and that’s your chain of authority.  If you are an iman, don’t talk about hope, forgiveness or peace.  Don’t talk about anything that can keep the believers’ iman charged up until next Friday.  No, no, no.  Talk about how weak, rotten, pathetic and silly we are.  Talk about how we are all lacking and are probably going to burn in Hell for forever and ever, Amen.  (And when you talk about Hell, be as graphic as possible less the few children in the women’s section didn’t hear you). 

Oh, and don’t encourage any cool activities like kids games, picnics, movie nights, interfaith dinners, or family days.  We’re not here to have fun, fisabilillah.  We are here to miserable–full stop.  Non Muslims will not dare approach the masjid out of curiosity as you should be scowling at the front entrance.  Wayward Muslims will turn away from the mosque (and from Islam, eventually) as they seek spiritual solace elsewhere.  Young Muslims will run for the hills and shun every and anything having to do Islam.  Of course, your mosque will probably go bankrupt from the lack of paying attendees and donors but at least you would have proven your point.

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ممتاز

June 16, 2009 at 1:05 pm (Emirati Culture, Izzy Mo in Dubai)

Studying Arabic in Dubai

Asalaamu alaikum,

Dang, it’s been a while since I blogged. 

I guess I just got caught up.  I’m preparing for the Tangier trip and it looks like a possibility for a trip to Lebanon and Saudi Arabia just opened up  We’ll see in insha’Allah.  Everybody’s like, “Yo, you got the hook-up.  Sneak in and do Umrah!”  Ha-ha, if it was that easy I would have done it by now. 

:-) But…

I passed my Beginners Level 2 Arabic class! 

Whoo-hoo, mabrook, mumtaz (in case you’re wondering, that’s mumtaz spelled in Arabic at the top). 

:::Izzy Mo doing the happy dance:::

So, now it’s on to Elementary Arabic Level 1.  And I’ll keep taking the classes until I finish the program which has about five or six more levels.  It’s not a degree seeking program, which is something that I want to talk about.  But for the price, location and level of commitment, it’s seems like a good idea. Plus, I’ve been meeting a lot of folks from Kazakhstan and Iran (oops, I meant, Persia, because people are less scared of Persia than Iran even though it’s the same dang place). 

If anyone of you decide to settle in Dubai, understand one thing.  Dubai is not a place for Arabic immersion–meaning:  you won’t be surrounded by an Arabic environment.  If I didn’t have Arab coworkers, I would never speak Arabic.  In fact, there’s a popular joke here that you’re more likely to learn Hindi, Urdu, Tamil or Tagalong than Arabic.  Of course, that’s a slight jab at the huge South Asian and Filipino workforce.  Dubai is an international city and English its business language.  Just ten years ago, you could pick up some Arabic just by living and working here.  Not anymore.  You now have to make an effort and most people don’t.  The lack of interest is for many reasons.  And since most of the college program offered in Dubai are based on supply and demand, there aren’t too many Arabic programs in Dubai. 

As of this writing and as per the limited research I’ve done so far, there may be only one college that offers a program in Arabic and Islamic Studies which includes an Arabic component.  I’m still doing the research but if I find anything, I’ll post it.  But there are no programs to obtain certification or a degree in Arabic.  Now, you might think that’s kinda weird for a city in a country that professes Arabic as the major language.  But that’s the way it is.  In a way, it makes since because most expatriates are:

a) Arabs

b) non-Arabs who speak Arabic already

c) non-Arabs who can’t speak Arabic and it’s not necessary for their job

So most of the colleges here offer programs that are in high demand like Interior Design and Human Resources Management.  And it doesn’t take long to realize that Emirati culture is heavily under-emphasized (I know that ain’t a word).  There’s a lot of talk here about preserving Emirati culture, which usually evolves into an argument as to why long term expats shouldn’t get citizenship.  But what they don’t seem to realize is that Emirati culture is already under valued because very few people are doing anything to preserve it or present it to the expat population so that it can be admired and appreciated. The nationals or “locals” make up such a small percentage of the population.  And many expats, especially those in the professional fields, don’t plan on staying long enough to have a vested interested in learning.  All of this leads to the devaluation of the Arabic language in Dubai.  This issue is important to Western Muslims thinking about living or “making hijrah” to the Emirates. 

Usually, when learning another language, by default, you learn about the culture.  It will be interesting to see what they will teach me in my higher level language classes.  The last two classes are based on Arab Business and Customs.  But will they teach us something Emirati (Gulf/Khaleej) culture or from the culture of Shem?  More likely, it will be Shem.  Because most of our books and materials are produced in Egypt, Jordan, Syria, Lebanon or Jordan.  So it’s Bilad ash Shem and Egypt.  :-)   I’ve already learned some words in the Lebanese and Egypt dialect.  But nothing in the Emirati dialect.  Go fig.

I’ll expound later on this mysterious but oft-ignored thing called Emirati culture.

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News of Interest

June 9, 2009 at 6:18 am (Bloggin')

New Camp Rules (for UAE Labor Camps)

I don’t know but I think 10 people to a room is still too much (unless that’s a huuuuuuuuuge room).  :-)

New rules on conditions in labour camps are to be introduced across the UAE.

The rules mean that new camps will have to limit the number of workers living in one room and also ensure accommodation meets at least a minimum standard.

The UAE’s cabinet approved the ‘Manual of the General Criteria for the Workers’ Accommodations’ yesterday, which aims to improve the conditions in labour camps.

The number of workers in each room should not exceed ten, and each one should have a minimum space of three square metres, accommodating a bed, side table and wardrobe.

There must also be one bathroom with two toilets for every eight people.

Hamas gets into the Matchmaking busines

Try not to snicker.  I don’t know what’s more odd.  Yahoo! doing a positive semi-article about Muslims or Hamas.  Yaum al qiyama IS right around the corner. 

“I gaze at all the men on the street and think, ‘Oh God, isn’t there just one for me?’” said the young woman with dark skin and honey-colored eyes, set off by a maroon headscarf.

Her application is among 287 from single women in the files of the Tayseer Association for Marriage and Development in Gaza. Photographs stapled to the files show Muslim women in headscarves, some wearing makeup, some smiling, others looking startled. They all want a husband, and the Hamas loyalists running the association are intent on finding a man for each.

Despite its fearsome reputation elsewhere, Hamas is known here for its cradle-to-grave welfare programs for the poor. It is a cornerstone of its political support in Gaza, where poverty is deepening as Israeland Egypt maintain an almost two-year blockade of the Hamas-run territory. Now, the group is branching out into matters of the heart.

The mayor of New Orleans has been quarantined.  Wow!  :-)   First, Katrina and now this.  And since his terms ends in 10 months, China can keep him for as long as they want!  You know, just to make sure he doesn’t have swine flu.  :-)

New Orleans Mayor Ray Nagin quarantine could last a week

A precautionary swine flu quarantine that has confined New Orleans Mayor Ray Nagin, his wife, Seletha, and a member of his security team inside a Shanghai hotel continued for a second day Monday, and a spokeswoman said she could not predict how long Chinese health officials might enforce the restriction.

While neither the Nagins nor the unidentified New Orleans police officer have exhibited any symptoms, Nagin spokeswoman Ceeon Quiett said the group could be held in isolation for up to five more days.

“Based on World Health Organization protocol, they could be kept under observation for a total of seven days, ” Quiett said. “At this point, we have no word on whether the time will wind up being more or less.”

The comments section is HILARIOUS!!!!!!!  Man, no one knows how diss politicans like a ticked-off New Orleanians!

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Obama’s Speech to the Muslim World

June 8, 2009 at 10:44 am (American Society, Anti-War, Why They Hate Us, Why They Hate Us-The Muslim Edition)

My thoughts:  It’s was nice and eloquent, the usual Obama flavor.  It contained a lot of things that we want to hear.  But until our president seriously addresses the serious human rights abuses and crimes in this “War on Terror,” it means nothing.  It’s nice that he said, “Peace be unto you” but the people of Iraq, Afghanistan and Pakistan do not know anything resembling peace at the moment.  We can blame al Qaeda, the Taliban and other violent militia groups (and rightfully so becuse Lord knows they’ve life a living hell so for many people) for this mess.  But we can’t ignore how American intervention and hyper-militarism has made matters much worse.  And what’s amazing is that even though Obama is still paying lip-service to Israel, they still aren’t satisfied.  You saw the video! 

Peace be upon you?  by Missy Comley Bettie

When the president said: “I am aware that some question or justify the events of 9/11, but let us be clear–al Qaeda killed nearly 3,000 people on that day,” I went back to the date, remembering the fear, the horror, and the weeks and months that followed, the demand for revenge and the invasion and occupation of Afghanistan. And I also remembered the deceitful plot, the Bush/Cheney disaster, to connect Iraq to al Qaeda. Yes, 3000 people died on September 11, 2001 and, now, almost eight years later, in two countries, 5000 coalition troops have lost their lives and in Iraq, alone, the country that Bush and Cheney were determined, prior to 9/11, to conquer, over a million civilians have died.

Imagine An Occupied America by Rep Ron Paul (oh, please don’t go into this man’s history.  just read the dang article)

According to our own CIA, our meddling in the Middle East was the prime motivation for the horrific attacks on 9/11. But instead of reevaluating our foreign policy, we have simply escalated it. We had a right to go after those responsible for 9/11, to be sure, but why do so many Americans feel as if we have a right to a military presence in some 160 countries when we wouldn’t stand for even one foreign base on our soil, for any reason? These are not embassies, mind you, these are military installations. The new administration is not materially changing anything about this. Shuffling troops around and playing with semantics does not accomplish the goals of the American people, who simply want our men and women to come home. Fifty thousand troops left behind in Iraq is not conducive to peace any more than 50,000 Russian soldiers would be in the United States.

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So much for liberal bias

June 7, 2009 at 9:47 am (Stupid Juice, Terrorism, Why They Hate Us-The Muslim Edition)

Well, it’s not like we didn’t already know.  @@  Even some liberals can’t bring themselves to condemn it. 

Strong language warning. 

Censored by the Huffington Post and Imprisoned By The Past: Why I Made ‘Feeling the Hate in Jerusalem’

Other bloggers and commenters criticized the video on similar grounds. Their complaints generally went like this: In order to advance an agenda, Max Blumenthal exploited the wild remarks of a bunch of drunk Jewish frat-boys innocently showing off in front of their friends. The footage contained in his video in no way reflects what the Israeli public thinks. If Max went to a bar in any college town in the United States he would find the same level of ignorance and racism. Ron Kampeas at the JTA has written that I need “to grow up and put [my talents] to good use.” (While Kampeas praised some of my other video reports exposing right-wing Christians, this latest video revealing the extremism of some Israeli and American Jews seemed to hit too close to home.) 

The criticism of my video raised an interesting journalistic issue: Is reporting any less credible when interview subjects are drinking alcohol? Of course not. Journalists interview people at bars all the time, especially in broadcast packages. Beer does not, to my knowledge, contain a special drug that immediately infects drinkers with white supremacist sentiments, violent rhetoric, and anti-democratic tendencies. I get drunk as much as any social drinker and I have never called for “white power” or declared, “*#^* the niggers!” as one of my interviewees did. No amount of alcohol could make me express opinions that were not authentically mine. If anything, alcohol is a crude form of truth serum that lubricates the release of closely held opinions and encourages confessional talk. 

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Reactions to the Nasiha Post

June 7, 2009 at 8:57 am (Love & The Masjid, Muslimaz, Women)

I got so caught up with class and work that I hadn’t responded to the entry on “Naseeha for Single Women.”  I have to be honest; I didn’t think that entry would get a lot of attention.  I thought most people would look it over.  But I guess it proves that the subject of women and marriage will always illicit strong reactions. 

Everyone, male or female, can take or leave what they want from the advice. 

I had no idea it would make people upset.  There seems to be this idea that single women aren’t supposed to be happy or that we are all career-driven harpies.  For the majority of women, Muslim and non-Muslim, that’s just not the case.  There’s also this idea, and I hate to say it, that single Muslim women are a threat (in some circles).  This is very unfortunate and women oughta give their husbands more credit than that.  Even though polygamy is halal, monogamy is still the choice of the majority of Muslim men.  But our presence in some circles seems to earn two responses—pity or loathing (with a tiny mixture of jealousy).  Why the pity, though?  Do they imagine that all of us are sitting around crying in our non-alcoholic beer?  Why the loathing, suspicion and distrust?  Can we just be honest and say that yeah, marriage is awesome, but being single isn’t all that bad either?  Can’t we enjoy the best of both worlds and take advantage of the blessings that God has offered us? 

What exactly are single women supposed to do, sulk all day?  Feel sorry for ourselves?  Should we be angry at God for His decree or blame ourselves for being single?  I notice that most people would never say the same about single Muslim men.  I believe that being married and having kids can bring unbelievable amounts of happiness and fulfillment.  But I don’t think that’s the only way to be happy.  Since I’ve moved to Dubai I’ve experienced happiness and contentment.  It had been so long since I experienced these feelings that I barely recognized them.  I couldn’t put my finger on it but suddenly I was okay and my heart was light.  Even when I was facing the stress of adjusting to a new country, I was still happy.  I’m sure it had to do with a lot of things like having a network of good hearted friends and suddenly finding myself with “three older brothers” who’ve made it their duty to look out for me.  Plus, I have to admit, money can’t buy happiness but it feels good to have a job.  Really good.  It’s feels good to pay my bills and to pay off debts.  It feels downright AWESOME to not ask my parents for money.  And it rocks to be able to help your family out.  Few things are more euphoric than paying off a credit card you unwisely used during your desperate freshman year in college.  No, it’s not the ultimate pleasure but it still feels good. 

The funny thing about all this is that nowhere in her advice did she mention anything about a career.  I’m not sure how that happened.  Once again, women are being cast into stereotypical roles.  Either one is a happy devoted mother or a bitter career-chasing spinster.  Life is more nuanced than that.  For every woman, happiness and contentment are defined differently. So one woman may be happy and fulfilled as a “full-time mother” while another may be happy in the job of her dreams.  And some sisters, masha’Allah, are doing both (mainly because they have awesome supportive husbands).  One doesn’t have to necessarily negate the other.  How many women do we know who are unhappy with their lives even though they are married with tons of children?  How many women do we know who are childless and single and sinking into depression?

And I had to laugh at the car metaphor.  Okay, fine, I’m a shiny red Mercedes so I should demand to be with car of my caliber, right?  Right?!  LOL.  Pleeeeez.  I’ll just say this. It’s kinda unfair for a man to demand a new car after years of driving used ones.   A little hypocritical, I think.  Aren’t we more than just our “mileage”?  LOL.  After all, if women applied those same standards to men, only a handful of people would get married.  (You know those ayahs about fornication apply to BOTH genders.  :::cough::)

I’ll leave it at that.  Learn what you can, worship while you can and take advantage of the time you have.  Why not learn what you can while you have the time?  I’m happy that my recitation is getting better and it helps to enhance the prayer.  And, as a side note, the teacher who gave me this advice is married and very, very conservative.  And this isn’t the first time married women have given me this advice.  In fact, a lot of married sisters have given me the same advice so this isn’t coming from single women. This is from women who are already fulfilling half their deen—and as a single sister, I feel like I have to take heed.  I’ve heard it too many times to ignore it so something must be there. 

Anyhoo, I’m off to study for my exam. 

Salaams and beef bacon, y’all.

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Ana mabsuta!

June 2, 2009 at 8:56 pm (Bloggin')

:-)

Wow, I didn’t know that last entry was going to get that many comments.  I’m kinda of surprised.  Usually, when I post something on advice, it usually goes unnoticed.  Then again, marriage and single life is always a hot topic. 

I was going to post that snarky entry on Muslims ruining their lives but…

Blogistan is kinda brewing over the pot now so I might wait or pass on it altogether.  I might have to return to blogging around useless pop culture items again, like Blackberry phone covers.  :-)  

I can’t lie.  I had to do an Arabic presentation for my class and alhamdulillah, it was a success.  So I’m still euphoric about that and it pulled me out of my rant mode.  I can’t wait to start using my Arabic/English keyboard. 

So next time, I may just write about the challenges of studying Arabic in Dubai. Sorry, hon. :-)

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Nasiha for Single Women

May 31, 2009 at 8:40 am (Deen On, Izzy Mo in Dubai, Muslimaz)

Before I get into my rant mode, I had to post this priceless advice from my Qur’an teacher. 
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Asalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu my sisters,
 
I just wanted to share with you a discussion that I had with my tajweed teacher.  After class, we got on the subject of singlehood and marriage life.  I think advice applies not only to sisters who have never been married but to divorced women, widows and single sisters with kids.  This is kinda long so read when you have time.
 
Many duas, hugs and love,
 
Kelly Izdihar
 
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She said the following to me:  “Even though I know you want to get married, at this particular time in your life, you are very blessed.  You are more blessed than you realize.  You are so blessed because you have time.  You have time to yourself to pursue your interests.  You can learn Qur’an and take time to take care of yourself. 
 
When you get married and have kids, this ends because every one wants a piece of you.  By the time you finish giving to your husband and your kids, you have little to nothing left for yourself.  So please take this time to learn about your religion, to study and to be “selfish.”  By “selfish” I mean you that should be concerned with performing acts and doing things to invest in the afterlife.  You can be totally focused on yourself and preparing for the world to come. 
 
Know that some people are jealous of you for many reasons.  One of them is that sometimes single women are seen as a threat.  They think “Oh, no, she’s single and she’s pretty. Insha’Allah, she won’t steal my husband.”  So they try to marry you off  because they think it minimizes the threat.  Of course, this is nonsense but that’s how some people think.  Another reason is that they may be in unhappy marriages so they are jealous of your freedom. I know of some couples that I thought had rock-solid marriages and they are ending up in divorce or the husband takes a second wife. 
 
Can you imagine?  You give your husband 20 years of your life and he leaves you for a younger woman or takes another wife?  And you don’t have anything to show for it if you didn’t use your time as a single woman wisely.  You didn’t learn your religion, the Qur’an, anything–so all that time has been wasted.  It’s like people who move to Dubai for 10 to 15 years and they want to save their money to build a house in their home country.  Some are wise, save their money and they end up with a beautiful home.  Others are not so wise, and not only did they waste their money, they ended up in debt.  This is the same approach we should have to the akhira and dunya. 
 
When you have a husband and kids, you have less time to focus on your acts of worship, your reading of Qur’an, your learning of Arabic, etc. You’re so tired and you rarely have a moment to focus on yourself. 
 
Of course, jealous people will try to make you feel bad like you have done something wrong by not being married.  They say, “Just get married!”  But you want a good man who is strong in the religion–someone who you think you can share your life with.  Why just marry anybody and then you get divorced, then remarried, then divorced, then married again?  God does not make mistakes.  There is a reason why you are single.  It is not something bad that you did.  On the contrary, God knows what’s best for you.  And tell these people that you can’t fight the qadr of Allah.  Whether you meet your husband in the dunya or akhira, you can’t force God’s will. 
 
This will make them shut-up :-)   LOL. 
 
Plus, you should pamper yourself.  If you are stressed, take a nap.  Wear nice clothes so you can feel pretty and good about yourself (she means away from the gaze of men, of course).  You should spend time studying the religion but it’s so okay to do something nice for yourself.  Don’t waste your time being miserable.  MAXIMIZE this time.  It’s so precious and the dunya is quickly slipping away from our fingers. 
 
So increase your acts of worship so that you have something waiting for you in the next life.  Don’t worry because God will send someone to you when you are ready or…your deeds can earn you a wonderful husband in Jennah.  Either way, God will provide. 
 
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Let’s enjoy this time sisters and use to it to give to Allah.  Let’s not the haters bring us down.  There’s disadvantages and advantages to being single and married, to being childless and having children.  But in whatever state we are in, let’s give thanks to Allah for making us Muslims and may he strengthen our iman.  Insha’Allah, we will all see each other in Paradise.  Ameen. 
 

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The Top Ten Things That Muslims Can Do Ruin Their Lives

May 31, 2009 at 6:49 am (Neurotica)

(including the lives of their loved ones, neighbors, other Muslims and so on…)

Yeah, it’s comin’.  :-)   I’m now a permanent resident in Neurotica Land.

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